Diving for Pearls with Maggie Kay
Wisdom in a Crisis
Calling in a Guide
Something that I was beginning to learn during my spiritual renaissance with Pat is that it is possible to access the most powerful, loving and wise help, advice and guidance – seemingly out of nowhere – and that it is very simple to do. Like many of life’s natural treasures, this precious resource is right in front of our noses, absolutely free of charge and almost effortless to tap into. And yet relatively few of us are aware of its existence, or how to go about it.
Even someone steeped in spiritual practice like me can pass by this wonderful source of personal spiritual guidance. Sensing that I would have a particular affinity with it, Pat introduced me to the idea of channeling spiritual guidance when we first met in 2002, but it was some years later before I engaged with it purposefully.
Dragging My Feet
My spiritual education had been almost entirely Buddhist in my 20s and 30s, so I had never really heard of channeling or spiritual guidance before I met Pat, apart from the kind of thing mediums do to speak to the dead. Although it had been satisfying and sometimes thrilling being so deeply and thoroughly schooled in Buddhism, when I learned about these other spiritual perspectives, it was even more fulfilling and exciting. I entered into a powerful and liberating further spiritual awakening.
Pat had studied many metaphysical books in depth including A Course in Miracles, Conversations with God, the early work of Abraham-Hicks and was also well read in Ascension and Channeling. He had also participated in Arnold Patent’s Celebration of Abundance Workshops and support groups. When he shared them with me, I found these approaches totally refreshing, giving context to much of what I had sensed intuitively, but never had the conceptual framework to explore or articulate. They resonated with much of Buddhism, but expanded my range of expression and gave validation to the more mystical side of me, something that had been incidentally suppressed by the Triratna framework I had held to for so many years. Meeting Pat was powerful enough in terms of the unparalleled mind, body and spirit connection we were experiencing together, but taking the lid off my spiritual container with these new possibilities was absolutely revolutionary.
It was probably about five more years before I decided to attempt to connect with a defined, recognizable personal spiritual guide. By this time, I was already informally channeling guidance via my writing, and had had a dalliance with a guide I had casually called upon to help me write a book, but I didn’t really know what I was doing.
Then one afternoon, I came across a copy of the book Opening to Channel by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer at a friend’s house clearance sale. Pat had a copy at home as well as several more books by them, but Opening to Channel was the one that he had often mentioned as he thought I would particularly enjoy it. Finally, I took notice. This copy at the sale had a strong magnetism and I knew that I had to have it. It seemed to be a message from the Universe that this was my time.
Having read Opening to Channel with great interest, I was soon ready to conduct my ‘ceremony of welcome’ as instructed to invite a guide to make contact with me. In the process, I learned a few important things about the best way to connect with a guide. One was that it is good to ask to connect with our highest possible guide. I already knew from Pat that it was important to check that the guide was benign by asking, “Are you from the light?” three times, but I hadn’t realized that ‘lesser’ benign guides could show up unless you ask for the best.
This made sense of the fact that I hadn’t really got on with a guide that had appeared when I asked for help with writing a year or two before. He told me his name was Moravian, and I imagined him to be a Victorian occultist, dressed in a dark suit and top hat. Although he was well meaning, there was something a bit severe and pushy about him. He certainly did not encourage me or bring out the best in me (rather, I felt chided for not doing well enough) and so I didn’t pursue the connection.
But this time it was entirely different. Following the steps in the book, I called upon my highest guide from the light and my new guide made her presence known (I could tell that she was a she). Her approach was gentle, yet as I opened to her presence, her energy was so powerful that I was almost swooning in her cloud-like atmosphere of pure love-bliss. I could happily let go, fall down – die! I could surrender, sigh away a lifetime of tension, breathe out and never need to breathe in again. Oh this was SUBLIME!
Although I couldn’t exactly see her, I knew she was made entirely of white light, was about 10 feet tall, had long hair and was wearing flowing robes. And yes, she had wings – she was an angel! Fortunately, I had long ceased caring that my imagination usually comes up with archetypal clichés, and simply allowed myself to fall in soul-love with the most divinely, beautiful creature I had ever encountered. She told me her name was Clarion (which I thought was odd, but really liked) and she has been with me ever since.
Finding Guidance in a Crisis
It is one of those awful times of intense distress and you don’t know what to do with yourself. There’s no one you can talk to right now and you are on your own. Perhaps you are in heartache having just split up with your partner. Or learned that you are being made redundant from a job you love. Or you have finally hit a financial wall and heard that you may lose your house. Maybe you’ve had a scene with your wayward teenager. Or you’ve had some bad news about a health issue. Or been let down by a friend. You are feeling traumatized, angry, grief-stricken, frightened, anxious, and hopeless. And most of all, you feel alone. Where do you turn? What on earth can you do? Well, there is something…
The process below evolved from my own experience of dealing with acute feelings of emotional upset. I am a natural communicator; I like to talk through issues and problems until they are resolved. But sometimes talking won’t do it, or isn’t available. One night, Pat and I had a heated disagreement that wasn’t resolved by bedtime. He went to bed, but I couldn’t bear to be near him when we felt so estranged and I certainly couldn’t sleep. Knowing I couldn’t talk to my beloved best friend and confidant (as he was at most other times) was as though the sun had been extinguished and I had been plunged into the most desolate and dark winter. I stayed up, feeling alone, tormented and at my wits’ end.
I was desperate to talk to somebody, but it was late at night. Then I thought of taking out my journal and writing it all down. And so I ranted, raved, wept, scrawled and scribbled furiously – all the frustration, all the confusion, all the self-doubt. I asked impossible to answer questions, wrote appallingly insulting things, swore, scratched huge exclamation and question marks. It all poured out uninhibitedly, the good, the bad and the ugly, splattering the mess out, right there on the page. SO THERE!
Eventually, I stopped. There was nothing left to say. I had vented everything out of me and was fully expressed, empty. Having finally given myself permission to accept exactly the way I felt, judgmental warts and all, the raging storm suddenly abated. A strange peacefulness fell upon me, and in that whisper pause of a moment, I became aware of a loving presence in the room with me. I couldn’t see anything, and wasn’t sure where this presence was, but could sense an atmosphere, a density, and had a tangible feeling that ‘someone’ was there with me. Needing a workable concept to describe what was happening, my mind helpfully framed this to be a guardian angel, spirit guide or higher self (it didn’t seem to matter which). Whatever it was, it felt lovely and I totally trusted it.
The most incredible thing about the experience was the way this guiding presence felt. There was a tangible atmosphere seeping into me as though I was being tenderly wrapped in a blanket of pure love. My body relaxed, my mind cleared and my heart opened. All three – body, mind and heart – were sighing in sweet surrender.
It seemed completely natural to communicate with this presence, and so, with the innocence of a child, I tentatively began to ‘talk’ to ‘it’ via writing. My side of the dialogue came through in normal lower case letters and the reply side from the presence in capital letters, somehow denoting a different voice and personality. I was amazed at what came back to me. Hardly mattering what the answers were, the experience of communing with this pure love was all the answer I needed anyway. However, answers did come – remarkable, surprising, wise answers from a completely loving perspective. My guide explained where Pat was coming from in a way that made my anger and frustration with him melt. I could only see him with the eyes of love now too, and all I felt was tenderness, understanding and compassion.
I understood myself completely, I understood him completely and I understood the conflict we were having completely too. All the tension in me left. My heart grew as big as the universe and all was well. Suddenly, I was overcome with weariness; the same kind of weariness you get when you finally arrive at your destination after a long, arduous journey. All I wanted to do was go to sleep. I could hardly keep my eyes open. So I thanked my guiding presence and said goodbye. I crept into bed, and after gazing upon my sleeping husband with gentle, knowing affection, was asleep in an instant.
The next day, the tension between us had completely evaporated. Pat sensed the change in me and there was space for us to feel open to each other again. We were still emotionally bruised and had our disagreement to sort out, but that was so easily done. I simply read out the wise words of my guiding presence which made sense of everything. This gave us both a deeper understanding of what was going on, why we were each triggered in the way we were, and what we each needed to heal and move on.
And so, my tip for you in a time of crisis, especially when you are alone and have no one to turn to, is this:
1 Vent out all your feelings in writing, uninhibitedly. Be as disgraceful and unreasonable and confused as you like! Write until you are empty and there’s nothing more to say.
2 Pause and take a few quiet breaths. Invite a loving presence, a wise guide, your higher self, God, or however you like to think of it, to show up and support you in this time of need.
3 Check that this presence is good by asking three times, “Are you from the light?” The guiding presence cannot answer “Yes” three times unless it is benevolent. If it cannot answer “Yes” clearly three times, tell it to leave immediately and that it is not wanted. Then repeat steps 2 and 3 again until you get a “Yes” three times.
4 You may ask your guide for their name if you like. (You can also ask your guide for any other information on them, but maybe at another time when you don’t have such a pressing issue to resolve.)
5 Talk to this guide and presence in writing (even if you don’t believe it is there, or can’t explain what it is). Use lower case letters when you are speaking and capital letters when the guiding presence is speaking.
6 When you are finished, thank and acknowledge your guide for their help. Remember you can call upon your guide any time you like.
7 At a later time, revisit what you have written when dialoguing with your guide and apply any good advice or guidance.
Known as the Inner Wisdom Coach and formerly an ordained Buddhist, Maggie specialises in meditation, mindfulness, law of attraction, metaphysics and spiritual intelligence for life, love and business.
As well as coaching one-to-one, she trains accredited Thrivecraft life coaches and meditation teachers and runs retreats and workshops for soulful entrepreneurs, coaches and well being professionals.
In 2016, with her son Jamie grown up, Maggie established Thrivecraft Home Hub, a riverside country retreat in Cornwall, UK, where she lives with her soul mate husband, Patrick.
Her new book – Diving for Pearls: A Wise Woman's Guide to Finding Love (O Books) – is a highly readable true love and spiritual adventure story laced with tips and teachings on meditation, Buddhism, inner wisdom and relationships relevant to all.
Maggie's vision for the future includes taking Thrivecraft worldwide via a new online academy; continuing to mentor coaches, well-being professionals and meditation teachers to grow and prosper their businesses; producing audios of her full range of guided meditations; and writing further books to inspire and support everyone to create rich, happy and fulfilling lives.
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